Weekly Q&A #23 11/27/21 Todd V Programs Пикап тодд mentoring program
(1:01) You mentioned it’s okay to qualify the girl a little bit. In what circumstances? How much? I don’t want to do it too much as if I am chasing her.
(4:03) I become very nervous when I meet a girl I really like, I can’t proceed to game normally. What should I do to fix this? (At the moment and in general)
(15:16) How to keep insecure, anxious, and clingy girls around casually without huge commitment?
(17:11) It’s been commonly taught that your thoughts, emotions, and actions need to be aligned in order to make an outer technique work. How true is that?
(18:47) That really is a half-baked “truth“. Just take the right action.
(20:22) In a cold approach or social circle scenario, how to establish man-2-woman-premise later in the conversation, if the topic was a different one at the beginning?
(24:33) Any examples of emotional spikes I can use as a beginner?
(25:30) If you want to cold approach a girl on crowded public transport (subway, train, city bus), how to frame it to beat by not making feel the girl uncomfortable?
(28:33) Can you elaborate more on your three stages of attraction? (I don’t like you; you’re winning me over; I like you now. Something like that?)
(31:10) Can I pass shit tests by saying “I’ll take that as a compliment”?
(32:41) How do you keep a Long Distance Relationship alive? She’s coming back in Feb. She says I’m amazing, we had sex for 3 days. She’s a blond 9 and has a virtual job so she travels.
(36:32) What do you say to a girl while you escalate physically? examples? like what secret do you tell her when saying something into her ear, when you hug her, etc.
(40:49) What is the correct answer if you have a girlfriend and the girl you’re trying to hook up with calls you out on it?
(42:11) I feel like this gets really complicated with misinterpretations, the premise in the negative, and disqualifiers added in the mix (after opening indirect).
(43:09) How to avoid catching feelings with a particular girl and turning her off?
(46:40) Hi Todd! My current sticking point is that my night game conversations tend to die out after 20-30 minutes. The general pattern is: I notice that the mood starts to drop and I feel the girl may be leaving soon, and a few minutes later I usually lose the set. There is a silent pause of a few seconds in which the girl is not investing in the conversation, and immediately afterward she goes away saying for example that she wants to go to the dancefloor or to the bathroom. My two best guesses are: either I don’t escalate enough, or I self-generate the situation by thinking that she might leave soon. What can I do when I notice that the vibe of the conversation begins to go down?
(50:23) What does a 9 or 10 game at a high-end club look like? They are easily dismissive and not easily impressed.
(52:35) How would you recommend we practice teasing? I know you use this Question-Answer-Tease format, but I’m not sure how to getter at the actual tease. Could you provide some examples/resources to reference or exercises I could go through to build this skill?
(55:58) I was running this set (not sure if this phrasing is good), she was qualifying and being self-deprecating. She asked at one point “Do you do this often, talk to strangers?“ I misinterpret “Listen, I don’t know if it’s right for you to get emotionally attached to me like this and be jealous of my relations with other women this early :)“ So far so good, but then I added, “Maybe once we go out on a first date or exchange numbers.“ That’s when I got “I have a boyfriend.“ The way I framed the date, it wasn’t as much a win for her, it maybe came off as an abrupt escalation. Up until this stage, it was great. What do you think?
(1:00:26) Generally speaking, are you going to lose more girls if you’re trying to sleep with her in a lover frame? Especially the hotter ones. Or is that irrelevant?
(1:02:32) Hey Todd. I’m struggling to approach when I go out with my social circle. Basically, my ego feels more vulnerable because my friends can see. Made worse by me being a beginner and often having to ping-pong between sets (plus I have Approach Anxiety). It makes me feel totally self-conscious and as a result, when I’m out with friends I usually do not do the approach. Going out solo all the time isn’t feasible, because I wanna keep my friends. Any suggestions? Need help normalizing this behavior/want honest thoughts.
(1:05:45) How much negative premise/gamey conversation can I make to attract her before sounding too gamey/pickup-y and flaking the number? I qualify a lot but if I don’t remember to make it very man to woman, it tends to be platonic and they treat me as a “nice guy to have a nice conversation with“. I once got “Do you get your lines from a pickup book?“, so I am tending towards avoiding premise-y lines.