Todd V Dating Weekly Q&A #21 — 11/20/21

Date: 11/20/21 (3:56) Can you explain the overlap or differences between attraction, premise, and value? (16:44) In a cold approach scenario, what are the necessary steps or strategies to create attraction if your looks don’t do it for her? (18:42) When should you use teasing lines like “You can go now“/“You’re done“? Is it when the set is positive, when she’s giving me shit, or if the set isn’t going well? (21:20) When the girl is trying to make me qualify, how should I respond without falling into her frame? (24:34) When mixing gamey moves into normal conversation. How should I proceed in normal conversation so it’s not boring or provider-y? (28:01) How to be more persistent without being (too) needy? (31:44) There’s a new forum for VGA, what’s the difference from the mentorship forum? (34:07) Why would you say a line like “You can go now“/“You’re done“ when the set is going well? I know it’s a disqualifier, but it doesn’t quite make sense in the flow of the conversation. (36:34) What are some smooth ways of escalating towards a kiss? Could you give examples for each skill level? (41:45) Novice frat guy. Advice on gaming sorority girls; I can’t afford a bad reputation. Older brothers have said to make female friends and sex will come. (45:43) How to react when a girl you approach calls out that she saw you hitting on others already? (47:44) Is that when shit tests usually occur? When attraction and premise meet, and conflict in the girl’s mind? (52:05) I missed an awesome misinterpretation opportunity last night when a girl responded to me with “I don’t want to talk to you (resisting evaluation), that’s why I have my back turned to you“. I missed the chance to say “Really? I thought you were showing off your ass“. (54:56) You’ve said in the past to consider yourself “a 10 in progress“ and to borrow abundance from your future. Could you explain what you mean by that? How do you reconcile that with the belief that “There’s no reason you’re not enough“? (57:33) What’s the best way to have zero fear of loss and neediness in your game? (1:00:58) Hey Todd, in some of my daygame sessions, I get “I have a boyfriend“ a lot and in other daygame sessions I don’t get them, I can’t figure out what it is that I’m doing that’s triggering the boyfriend thing. (1:04:42) I number closed a girl from a salsa event. She seems interested and texted me first. After some back and forth, we were making plans to meet on the weekend, but then she stopped replying. Would it make sense to follow up or is it better to wait? Most likely I’ll see her again at a dance event on Thursday. I am just thinking she may get cold in the meantime. (1:06:23) Todd, I would like to know, if you want to pull 1 different girl every day, would it become a problem bringing girl after girl to your place regarding neighbors or girls accidentally coming to your place without permission? Or would it be better if you have money to bring girls to different Airbnbs? I work online and I can work anywhere and I will finish my apartment contract soon, so I don’t know if committing to one place for game is a good strategy. (1:09:21) Hey Todd, sometimes when I get invited to parties or social events and talk to girls, there I sometimes get “What do you mean?“ when I try to establish a non-obvious interest in the girl. What is the reason, I don’t want to say flat out, “I like you!“ (1:11:22) Last night I was gaming this ’10’ staff member at the club, got her chasing relatively fast. I tried to venue change but she wasn’t down, that’s when I noticed how many eyes were on us (by her coworkers). Out of consideration for that and the fact she had a boyfriend, I didn’t want to escalate physically and make her seem like a slut at her work. Later I asked for her number, she rejected me, and seemingly the good vibes between us were just gone. What could I have done differently? Do you agree with my thinking here? (1:13:20) Can you mention some situations where a statement of empathy can be a good move? (1:18:39) I often hear the statement “She feels what you feel“. How true is that statement in your opinion? (1:20:50) In The System, you recommend using statements instead of questions. Can you explain the mindset behind it? (1:22:42) In a cold approach, should you just assume value and establish a man to woman premise? (1:23:46) How to handle girls being self-deprecating in an honest way, without them resisting my evaluation, just as part of banter? (1:24:56) I heard you say that you should be aware of where the girl’s at, but not care about how she reacts; how to reconcile these two mindsets? Also, is not caring about being calibrated or what she thinks of you an effective way to display value?