Why Avoidant and Anxious Partners Find It Hard to Split Up

Fractious couples are often made up of one party who is ’avoidant’ (hiding their intimacy needs) and one who is ’anxious’ (nagging and pressuring counter productively for their intimacy needs to be met). These couples go through cycles that run from cosiness to fury to sulk to blow up to cosiness. Why do these cycles happen and why are they so hard to break? What might be a better way forward? Sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop: Our website has classes, articles and products to help you think and grow: FURTHER READING You can read more on this and other subjects on our blog, here: “There is a certain sort of relationship that is alternately passionate, fiery and painfully unfulfilling – and that tends to puzzle both outsi